Tung - Complete Charisma Institute

How to Pickup Every Girl Guaranteed!

2008-02-05T12:10:00.000-08:00

Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing. ~Harriet Braiker

The guy in this pic is no doubt with a smokin' hot babe. His outfit though, is a bit much.

Back in the day I'd see something really flashy attached to something I wanted, and I'd automatically make the connection I would need to be that flashy in order to get what I wanted. Natural Logic. The truth is though, his outfit wouldn't be the reason why he gets chicks, it's definitely who he is as a guy. And if that's the case, then he could just as easily roll into that place without any gear on and still be fine. If he can't, well then...

We make many silly assumptions in our head we don't know about. Most of them hurt us in the long run. The most common and destructive is the assumption that because you know a little bit about female psychology and alpha man behavior, that you are not permitted to screw up at any point in time. You must Hook/Kiss/Bang every girl you attempt! This thinking is your main source of hesitation, neediness, and inferiority. And no, Negging doesn't make you any more superior and any less needy.

A man would do nothing if he waited until he could do it so well that no one could find fault. ~John Henry Newman

Nobody can pick up every girl in the world. It's impossible. If you see how it would be impossible to pick up every girl, than you must also accept the fact that the next girl you run into might reject you. It's a fact of life.

But why bring this simple truth up? It sounds quite negative doesn't it?

It is vital that you realize the importance of the reason why I brought this to your attention. A big part of your anxiety, nervousness, and tentativeness comes from you not allowing yourself the possibility of failing. You don't even give yourself a chance to fail! Which also means you don't give yourself a chance to succeed.

There are many nuggets of gold from my pal Bruce in that video. But the one I want you to remember is, "You must learn the Art of Dying." To learn how to lose/die/get rejected, is to be liberated from it. Bruce was right when he says everyone only wants to learn the way to win, but never how to accept the way to lose.

Learn the Art of Dying my friends.

Meaning Well

2008-02-04T22:04:00.000-08:00

“To become truly great, one has to stand with people, not above them.” -Charles de Montesquieu

I wrote a post a couple days back titled "First Things First", and what I outlined in that article is basically you want to build yourself up to be an amazing guy first, THEN after that do you want to go out and meet the women of your dreams. Not before. You don't become the man of their dreams by meeting them all when you're a life sucking, value hungry, insecure/unsure about yourself guy.

So how do you become the guy of their dreams without going out "sarging" wildly and trying to get the 1000 "sets" under your belt? Well quite simply, you come to us. hahaha

But for those who can not meet us for our bullet-proof seminars and workshops, I am more than happy to outline our tried, tested, and true method for winning over any one you please. Of course, I'll give it to you bit by bit, piece by piece so you can digest it. A book will be released outlining everything soon, but just take whatever I say for now and know that I'm sequencing it in an order that will benefit you the most. So, the First lesson:

Meaning Well

You will never...

1. Cut someone down for rejecting you

2. Lie to someone to get something where if you said the truth they would not give it to you

3. Tell a story that didn't actually happen

4. Talk to someone purely just to raise your value?

These are just a few...

You will always do your Best to...

1. Only Enrich people's lives, in ALL of your daily actions

2. Only say things which are meant to Uplift people

3. Laugh when someone else cracks a funny joke about you. Then call them an asshole. (haha jokingly of course)

4. Leave when they don't want anything to do with you.

These are just 8 of the many things the best socializers in the world know instinctively. And you can too when you start to pay attention to the dynamics which I will set on a plate for you.

The importance of meaning well, is that it will do many things for you. here are the 2 major ones which you are probably the most interested in.

-Increased Confidence

-Decrease in Anxiety

Could you use the increase and decrease in these 2 things? Of course you can, everybody does. If you don't, that's like saying you don't need an extra $1000. Even if you're rich you'd take it cause then you'd have the power to give that $1000 to a cause that you deem worthy. Not a direct comparison but you get my point.

You increase your confidence because you know you're only giving people a good thing, and you decrease your anxiety by a noted amount because quite simply, what do you have to be anxious about? Would you get anxious if you were going to give a stranger a cheque for $1 000 000? No you wouldn't. So why would you feel anxious for giving a girl who you think is absolutely gorgeous a genuine sincere compliment on her looks? Cause you don't think she will take it in a good way?

What if that person you were going to give the cheque for $1 000 000 didn't take it in a good way? Thought you thought he was poor and told you to get off his property. How would you feel bout that? Same rejection, but what's different?

The difference is that you know that the $1 000 000 is a good thing. It can only be good for the person. A million dollars can fix many peoples problems, or at least make them happy for a short period of time. Can you say the same things about you? When you're out trying to meet people, you are essentially going to be a part of their lives if you succeed. Are you as good as a million dollars?

Sounds like a tall order, however I can tell you with 100% sincerity that even $1 Billion dollars would not persuade me to never be able to see all of my closest friends ever again for the rest of my life. Yes I could make new ones, especially with the money I could make fake ones, but the friends I have today are not only my favourite people in the world, they are my favourite things about life in the world.

You have the potential within yourself to be that important to someone else, and most likely already are with someone.

You can bet your ass the only way you can do that is from either:

1. Meaning Well

2. Inspiring Them

I forget who said it but most of us have heard this,

"Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care."

How true is that?

So to conclude this first lesson here. ONLY think to mean well whenever you are out doing your "pick up" thing. No matter what that is, if you're approaching, calling them, or meeting them for a date, MEAN WELL.

The 1st Step: First Things First

2008-01-31T14:58:00.000-08:00

The first step on any journey toward something IS NOT the most obvious step toward its direction.

Sound contradictory?

Maybe not...

The first step in attaining something should be your full 100% confidence in yourself that when you do attain it you will enrich it, make VERY good use of it, or make it grow substantially.

Let me explain.

I would love to be the CEO of a Fortune 500 company. If there was an e-book or a DVD program outlining step-by-step how to go about it and do it, I would surely buy it and put it into practice right away.

However, even if I followed the directions exactly to the point AND the advice in the program was 100% legit, at this point in time I would probably not be able to attain the end goal the program promised.

Why?

Quite simply, if I was to take over one of those large companies today, they would surely go bankrupt in a few weeks time.

EVEN though I wouldn't MEAN to do it.

They would surely go down in flames, let me assure you. I don't even do my own tax returns, let alone give the green light to the accountants who would be dealing with millions or billions of dollars.

At this point in time, EVEN if I was handed over the job like that from a good friend, I would turn it down.

Am I crazy you ask? Not at all.

All I have to do is think of all the families and lives I would destroy from taking the position and crumbling the company down.

The same applies when you are out searching for people to bring into your life (coincidentally enough!)

Whether for a night, a week, a year or a lifetime.

If they were to put their life into your hands for whatever period of time, would you enrich it? Make them grow a little? A lot?

Or at the very least - make them enjoy themselves having a very good time with you?

(remember the good old saying "leave them better than you've found them"?)

Note that the above intentions can not co-exist with your personal motives like:

1. Wanting to show off your ability to get a one-night stand in front of your friends.

2. Proving to yourself that you can get girls of a certain caliber.

3. Essentially showing off to everyone that you can get a hot chick.

When you keep your focus and attention on HER Benefits instead of yours, you will attain an unshakable confidence about you which is far more noticeable than boldness.

"That's great," you say, "but what if I can't get to the point where we both sit down so she can start to see that I am capable of giving her all this and that I actually want to give it to her?"

Well, if you're out and about, in any social setting talking to a girl, it means you are

1. With her

2. Talking with her

3. either a) Around her friends

or b) Around your friends

What else do you need/want?

The only thing that's different from her and a girlfriend you already know is time.

In other words, right after you Open her, there's no time like the present to start showing her a good time! Why wait?

If she's unresponsive, treat her just like you would any other friend who is unresponsive to your behaviour. It's like, "OOPS."

If you're getting a long string of bad responses, admit that you might not be someone who they want around. Oops, whatever.

Adam, one of my really good friends from London, is hands down one of the best socializers in the world. (I substitute what people would usually call a PUA/Seducer/Don Juan with the word 'socializer' instead)

"I start in Comfort," he says referring to the commonly accepted model of seduction that you must first attain attraction before you try for comfort, "If I'm actively trying to show her that I am someone worth meeting, I would be subtly communicating that I am NOT someone worth meeting unless I let her know verbally. I can accomplish all that by simply making her laugh!"

I whole-heartedly agree with Adam on this one, as you are shooting yourself in the foot if you feel the need to actually actively show people you are someone of high value.

People of high value do not go around demonstrating their high value left, right and center.

Actually, after meeting a few of them and hearing about so many others and their attitudes, they NEVER bring out their character traits and possessions or whatever else that make them high value, and actually almost ALWAYS downplay themselves while bringing out the best out of people around them...

And I don't want to prove to anyone that I am someone they want to know. If I am, then I am. If I'm not, well, then I'm not. I'm still going to make them bust a gut.

So, the first step...

Ask yourself honestly - are you a person you would like if you were to meet yourself? What if you were to meet your clone, except he liked, and disliked everything the opposite of you? Would you still like him?

Think about it...

What everyone needs to know to start their journey

2008-01-24T00:43:00.000-08:00

Simplicity is hacking away the unessential. – It is not daily increase but daily decrease – hack away the unessential! The closer to the source, the less wastage there is. –Bruce Lee

When I started my Journey 5 years ago, I wasn’t a typical student of the art. I was popular, had enough girls, and hung out with the cool crowd. When I go back to my hometown I have people I’d never seen before come up telling me they knew who I was. I ask them,”Which class were we in?” with them excitedly replying, “Oh no, we were never in class, I know you because you hung out with so and so. You guys were always too cool for us.” Clearly.

So why plunge into the Journey? I was leaving for University and wanted the extra edge. I was scared I couldn’t replicate my status in the new setting. When I stumbled upon the seduction community I was overwhelmed by how many different ways you could meet a girl. At the time I only knew one way. I wanted so badly to learn every seduction style in order to give myself the best advantage. If I was in a coffee shop, I would use the latest day-game tactics. If I was in a nightclub, I would use the latest buying temperature pumper material. I desired an impenetrable fortress of tactics so there would be no scenario where I would not know what to do. I wanted to know beforehand, not while I was in the middle of a conversation. Thinking on my feet was something unpredictable so it didn’t interest me as a long term solution to my social life. Little did I know what mess I was getting into.

I was always about building my social life as opposed to just getting amazing at “picking up” chicks. However, when I began I foolishly became very good at getting women first, thinking the world would then admire me for my Don Juan like abilities, thus taking care of my social life. Who else can relate to this?

I was in for a rude awakening. My plan did not turn out the way I predicted. The people who admired me weren’t people I liked, the girls I brought into my life left, and the ones who really got to know me shunned me when they discovered who I really was; someone wishing they were someone else. (Read: Trying to be cool)

That was 3 years ago. I decided to take a break from everything due to my current results. I chipped away at the fake unpleasant persona I built up over the years, a little each day. 3 years later, I am overcome by a wave of immeasurable gratitude. The people I attract into my life are all good people, the ladies are all ones I won over by being myself (which also means I don’t have to do much else to keep them), and my favourite point of all, I have the BEST social circle on the planet. It consists of people who I can truly just be myself and am not personally judged for any of my actions or beliefs. Sure, they will give their opinions and criticism, but never think any less of me for choosing what I have chosen. I am very lucky to have stumbled upon this last point. It has been my backbone for realizing my Principles for Unlimited Social Success.

I was out with my friend recently who is one of the best naturals I have ever seen. I’ve learned much more from him than vice versa. He wanted advice on how to approach a girl. (Even the best look for advice when the pressure’s on) What this lead to was the discovery of a simple system which ALWAYS gives you the PERFECT thing to say – ON THE SPOT, AND making it real, authentic, and genuine to the core. What you say will always make sense to the other person.

I’m so excited as I have been sharing new personal thoughts and philosophies with close and respected friends. These friends include Chartered Accountants, International Corporate Lawyers, all the way to my old Psychology Professor. Respectively, they have each used my Principles to build better relationships with their clients, land the cases they want, and dedicating a class and an assignment to their class for my teachings.

My principles are universal and are always effective. I am excited to share them with anyone who wants to learn. They are simple enough for ANYONE to learn and easy enough to apply right now. It is also an impenetrable system that never fails. You will always know what to do. I will be giving you the pieces to the puzzle in the blog posts to come.

-Tung